Garance Galore

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I always believed that the biggest decision we take in life is the person we decide to marry, and I still believe that it is true. 

I have been lucky enough to witness beautiful marriages and inspiring men and women, who taught me a lot about healthy love and relationships, despite my chaotic nuclear family situation. 

I have an amazing father and great uncles, who showed me what it means to love and respect women. I have incredible aunts who have always spoken to me openly and truthfully about what being a wife means. 

As I grew up, I always chose to take into consideration these amazing role models, but I also learned from my own past mistakes. I had to discover for myself what I was looking for in a partner, and I also got to know myself better in a relationship. 

There are a million reasons why I chose to be with my fiancé, but I will only share five of them today. You might think of your own partner while reading these points, or maybe they will comfort you or inform you better on what you want or not, in future relationships : )

He makes me laugh 

I remember talking to one of my uncles about his marriage; he told me that the main thing that he loved about marrying my aunt was that they have so much fun together. He added that finding someone to laugh through the happiest and hardest times of your life is key to a good marriage. I never forgot this piece of advice.

This was the first green flag.

And till this day, no matter what situation we have to enter, A always finds a way to make me smile.

He makes me a better person

I have never been more aware of myself than since I know him. For the simplest reason: he is always so good and kind to me. So, I wake up thinking, ‘What could I do today to make his life better?’, and try a little harder every day to be a little more selfless. 

Not only does he make me a better partner, but he also encourages me to learn new hobbies and do what I love. I just love the person I am with him. 

I feel amazing around him

I’ve never understood to quote ‘When you know, you know’ better than today, because I KNOW.

He makes me feel comfortable, beautiful, smart, and funny. And I think that everyone deserves to feel this way while being around their partner, regardless of how pretty, intelligent, and entertaining you are! 

I can count on him 

I once forgot my phone in an Uber; I had no idea what to do. I took my laptop, logged in on Instagram, and sent a PM to A (with whom I was not in a relationship yet), explaining everything to him. He asked me where I was coming from and called me three minutes later, telling me to come down and that the cab driver was on his way to my house.

On this very day, a little piece of my heart was already his! It might sound silly, but he saved the day, and I could go on and on about all the times he saved my day. And this is definitely something I love about him. I can count on him for absolutely everything. And this was such a refreshing feeling! 

I admire him 

I have never looked up to someone the way I look up to him. He is, of course, not perfect, but at the end of this life, I would be happy to be a little more like him.

To me, this is what love is. This admiration fuels mental and physical attraction as well as genuine respect, which is obviously going both ways. 

Just like every person is unique, every relationship is unique. You and I might be looking for different things in a partner, which is completely natural. But if my younger cousins or sister ask me, I will always tell them to consider these five elements when starting a relationship, because while we are all different, I do believe that they are the basis of the most beautiful relationships I was lucky enough to witness. 

Garance